Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.

— Malcolm S. Forbes

Positive Affirmations

~ If you change the way you think….Everything changes ~

Affirmations shouldn’t be wishlists, but developed and used with a sense of energy and enthusiasm about them. Make a commitment to using affirmations consistently and effectively to build your self esteem, confidence, abundance, & to draw happiness into your life….

Affirmations are incredibly powerful tools for building self esteem and confidence as well as overall personal development and self growth. When you want to make changes in your life, the words and thoughts you say to yourself are very important.

Affirmations can be used to create any desired conditions in your life; whether that be more fulfilling personal relationships, more self esteem and confidence, greater prosperity, vibrant health and so on.

Affirmations are the seeds you plant in your mind for positive change to occur. Continued use of affirmations are the water you use to move towards making positive changes. Consistent use of affirmation are very important.

In fact you may already be using affirmations unconsciously, but in a negative way. So you can reverse the situation and start planting positive seeds of change by developing more positive thinking activities.

Here are some tips on positive affirmations:

Ensure that the affirmations are in the here and now, not in the past or future

Only affirm what you want (“I have loving, fulfilling relationships”)

Use the first person (“I” ) to keep it personal

Affirmations should always be in the positive (‘”I have an abundant and rich life, with more than enough money for my desires and needs” and not “I don’t want to be poor”

Practice 1-2 affirmations consistently for what you most want in life and give yourself time for the habit to become part of your regular routine before you start using more affirmations

As you start to use affirmations consistently and regularly, you may find that all sorts of negative feelings crop up. It may feel uncomfortable, but this is a sign that the affirmations are working! You are stirring the pot of hidden, negative thoughts in your subconscious and they’ re putting up a fight! Give vent to these thoughts: speak to someone, write it down in a journal or seek professional advice and guidance.

Further tips on making positive affirmations work for you.

Write down the affirmation and put it in a prominent place in your home where you’ll see it every day –

computer, purse/wallet, bathroom, bedroom

Sing the affirmation in the shower!

Write it down 20 – 50 in your diary/journal

Say it to yourself every morning and evening

Draw the affirmations using colourful pencils, paints

Record yourself saying these affirmations and play the tape to yourself every morning and evening for at least 21 days

Use self help quotes, inspirational and motivational sayings to assist you in your positive thinking activities.
Here are some self esteem affirmations:

I am extremely successful in everything I do or say

I fully trust and use my intuition; it guides me to the right place

I can say “No” to other people and know I remain loved and cared for

I love myself unconditionally just as I am

I accept and acknowledge all of my qualities

I give myself permission to do what is best for me

I am a happy, healthy, prosperous, positive person

I have complete and unconditional worth as a person in this universe.

Positive affirmations can be used to reprogram your thought patterns and change the way you think and feel about things.
They are short positive statements that can help you focus on goals, get rid of negative, self-defeating beliefs and program your subconscious mind.

Affirmations can be especially helpful when setting personal professional goals. The importance of writing down and developing your goals for life cannot be overstated. It is a proven technique for ensuring clarity and enabling you to see (previously unrecognised) opportunities for your personal development and self growth.

So, if you want to build your self esteem and confidence, better health, more fulfilling personal relationships, greater prosperity and abundance, begin within and start affirming!

More Positive Affirmations to help you get started…..

•  I  accept and am true to myself.

•  I believe in, trust and have confidence in myself.

•  I eat well, exercise regularly and get plenty of rest to enjoy good health.

•  I learn from my mistakes.

•  I know I can accomplish anything I set my mind to.

•  I forgive myself for not being perfect because I know I’m human.

•  I never give up.

•  I accept what I cannot change.

•  I make the best of every situation.

•  I look for humor and fun in as many situations as possible.

•  I enjoy life to the fullest.

•  I have control over my thoughts, feelings and choices.

•  I stand up for my beliefs, values and morals.

•  I treat others with respect and appreciate their individuality.

•  I contribute my talents and knowledge for the good of all.

•  I make a difference whenever I can.

•  I practice patience, understanding and compassion with others as well as myself.

•  I commit to learning new things, remain open-minded and am the best that I can be.

•  I live in the moment while learning from the past and preparing for the future.

Individualized Positive Affirmations For Improving Self-esteem

Positive self esteem is very important if not crucial to our happiness and well being as a human being. Having positive self esteem can make the difference in that which we take on in life, in that which we go about achieving and creating. Having positive self- esteem also allows us to have healthy and joyous relationships with others, to experience true intimacy. One could also assert that having positive self esteem gives us access to genuine spirituality. Poor self-esteem, on the other hand, creates the space for us to experience a great deal of negativity in life including depression, anxiety, fear, stress and loneliness. Negative or poor self esteem is also highly correlated with alcohol and drug dependency. Some even believe that a negative or poor self-image is the source of such addictions.

While it appears that the importance of positive self esteem is somewhat understood, the unanswered question has always been about how to improve or enhance a person?s self-esteem. Some belief that a person?s self esteem rests upon them being successful, in accomplishing that which they take on in life, of achieving goals that they have set for themselves. As a result much effort is put into assisting others in effectively and efficiently planning their doing in life. Others believe that our sense of self esteem is determined by the type of relationships that we have, that by surrounding ourselves with positive people who will appreciate and acknowledge us that our esteem will be positively impacted. To this end training is given to help a person improve his interpersonal skills, how he communicates and relates with others. While both of these endeavors are important, it is not the having or doing that creates positive self-esteem. Ones self esteem is not given or to be obtained from without, external to the person.

One very effective way to improve self esteem is through the use of positive affirmations. Positive affirmations are very powerful for transforming how a person feels and thinks about himself, ultimately influencing how he views and acts within the world and towards others. The fundamental reason why positive affirmations are so effective is that their nature or structure reflects what already exists in our mind. Our identity or who we think we are, our current thinking patterns, are also a series of affirmations, composed fundamentally of mere words or language. Everything we think, all of the thoughts that we have, are merely affirmations. Positive affirmations, when used consistently, begin to alter our prevalent internal language pattern, as negative as it may be, our inner self talk or dialogue that exists within us. The end result of the consistent use of positive affirmations is the transformation of an inner negative language pattern into one that is positive in nature

The most effective way to use positive affirmations is with the individual?s own voice. While a person can have a beneficial result from listening to a commercially developed product that employs positive affirmations recorded by another, the transformative power of this technology is enhanced or strengthened by the positive messages being delivered in the person?s own voice. By using a person?s own voice to transform the inner dialogue, there is less resistance to the transformational process due to the fact that the voice itself is the same or identical. It is as though the negative voice or language pattern that one hears repeatedly in life is altered or transformed by the consistent exposure and listening to that same voice but with the structure of positive enhancing affirmations. Eventually the structure will transform from one that is negative to one that is positive in nature.

The process of using ones own voice in doing work with positive affirmations can be strengthened with the use of therapeutic relaxation music. While the use of ones own voice is very powerful for creating change in a person?s life, the use of specially designed therapeutic relaxation music assists in creating the audio space for this process to be very powerful. We tend to be more open or suggestible to positive affirmations or language when we are in a state of relaxation. When combined with binaural audio tones the relaxing affect of the therapeutic relaxation music is greatly enhanced. When used with the combined effect of the therapeutic relaxation music and binaural audio tones and consistently, the positive enhancing affirmations that are delivered will have such a profound affect upon improving and transforming a person?s internal, self-talk and eventually his self-esteem.

The technology of utilizing positive affirmations that are recorded in a person?s own voice and therapeutic relaxation music is currently being employed in the treatment of those suffering from substance dependency problems. At the Holistic Addiction Treatment Program in North Miami Beach, Florida, clients are given access to this powerful technology. Clients have the ability to create personal affirmations that empower them and support their recovery and also are able to record these affirmations. The recorded positive affirmations are then mixed with specially designed therapeutic relaxation music to create a powerful audio product to assist the individual in his recovery. Once created the client is trained in the most effective manner in which to utilize their personal CD as part of their overall recovery plan. Those clients who utilize this powerful technology tend to improve their self- esteem, stay in recovery and improve the quality of their life in general. When a person feels and thinks more positively about himself he tends to be more positive towards everything that he is taking on in his life, including and most importantly his recovery.

Source:  Harry Henshaw, Ed.D., LMHC

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